I have something to say.....

I try to be a patient and even tempered person, but there are some things that bother me in such a way that I am compelled to address them at every moment possible. Let me just list the things that I want to talk about, I’m way more of a visual person. My mind has to see organization in order to properly organize thoughts.

1.Football fans:

I love football. Anyone who knows me know that in order to keep your head attached to your neck do not disturb me with anything other than pigskin talk from Sunday at 11 am to, Monday at the 11 pm. I have no clue what is going on in the world because I only watch Mike and Mike and NFL Network. I’m obviously a Cowboys fan, but even more I’ m a fan of the game. I’d like to think that I can hold a decent conversation about most teams in the NFL. This is where my problem lies. Last week I went to a sports bar to watch the Skins vs. Giants game. There were some of us who clearly were into the game then there were what I call score watchers. They really don’t know football and cannot hold a conversation about it, but they will make typical comments such as “He sucks…”. So this dude says, loud and boisterously, “Man EF Santana Moss, when is the last time he scored a TD”. Now, not only am I not a Skins fan, but I think Santana is a sub par receiver. Nevertheless, he scored a touchdown 30 minutes prior to that statement. Now had he been watching the game and not walking around pretending to be a fan of the game he would not have gotten so many disgusted stares after that statement. Oh and please let me add for the guys, when you see a girl watching a football game at a sports bar please don’t try to get your pimpin on. I’m rude. My reply is typically “I’m watching the game”. Don’t bother me, I implore you.


2.Friends (Part 1)

Time after time I have heard comments made about the downside of having female friends. It usually starts off as “See that is why I have guy friends, females are so catty”. No my dear, that is not why. You are unable to hold friendships with females. Women who make these statements have done several things to put themselves in a position that they feel only a man has their back. What is more wonderful that a bond between girlfriends. Furthermore, if you don’t think a man is just as catty as a female then you haven’t lived on this earth long enough. I know of just as many men who will tune into gossip and keep things going as females. Now don’t get me wrong, I have male friends and I love them dearly. But my girls are another thing. I need them just as much.

3.Friends (Part 2)

Keeping with the topic of friends, people often say “I don’t need anymore friends”. How can that be? I can only see that statement holding true if the friends you have aren’t that great. If I have great friends, why would I possibly not want more? To be surrounded by great friends is a blessing. And anyway, who do you think you are that you get to put a sanction on how many people get to be your friend. Folks kill me. Now don’t get it twisted you can’t be just friends with everyone. Lord have mercy, that is a disaster waiting to happen. I am leery of folks who just so happen to be everyone’s best friend, that is not going to work out, and it’s a set up.
The best way to maintain several friendships is to first understand that everyone is not going to be the same kind of friend. You have traveling friends, IM friends, shopping buddies, club friends, movie and dinner friends, reality TV friends etc. I would never expect everyone that is my friend to be the same kind of friend to me as another. There are levels. This is why I have so many friends. Well aside from that fact that I’m such a rock star  Don’t ever block the blessing of possibly meeting a great new person.

4. Black Men:
*sigh*. I get so upset when I hear people constantly talk about how bad black men are. Yes there are issues across the board. For the most part, they rock. Coming from me that is saying a lot because of what I’ve been through personally. But if I can go through all of that and still without question hold them in high regard I don’t see what the fuss is about. One is running for President. My father is a SAINT and he is a black man. Most of my male friends are affluent, professional, business minded great black men. I know it’s not just me that knows so many great ones. The issues plaguing black men are awful, but so is the institution that they, that we were born into. Give em a break. How are they going to rise up if we keep kicking them down?

5. Purses:
Oh now you know this had to be included. Save your “that purse is too expensive” comments. I am well aware of the price tags on most purses that are hot. If you don’t spend that type of money on luxury items then fine. Let us that do, DO US. I don’t need you to tell me what I could be doing with the money I spend on a purse. As long as I am not taking money from someone else, it shouldn’t concern you. Don’t let money define you slim. Men buy rims, play stations, 87 inch TV’s , I can buy a purse or two or three. When folks make comments like that, the first thing I think is you’re a hater. Let me LV.



P.S. If you have not registered to vote, do so right away. The deadline is October 14th. If you do not vote in this monumental election you essentially mean nothing.


Goodnight

BagLady